Recovery Supporters guides families through the recovery process. From intervention to wellness, living well, sobriety, liberation and restoration, we provide much more than support to addiction families, but the tools needed to thrive.
Recovery Supporters is dedicated to providing tools and strategies to the families and loved ones trapped by another’s addictions. Recovery supporters cannot be free themselves, so long as an addicted loved one still participates in addiction. Recovery Supporters does not just provide support to those affected by another’s addiction, but teaches them how to intervene and begin an ending to the addiction affecting them all. We teach how to change addiction behavior to recovery behavior so all can be liberated from the suffering addiction is causing them.
Addiction damages not just addicted individuals but the family, friends and others affected by their behaviors.
Who’s Qualified to Help an Addict?
Mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, neighbors, friends — anyone affected by a person’s addictive behaviors is qualified to be a Recovery Supporter.
Who’s Not Qualified to Help an Addict’s Recovery?
Dysfunctional people are NOT qualified to help an addict’s recovery. An addict needs to focus on recovery. Personal relationships have to be put on pause. Recovery Supporters need to accept this.
• The early stages of recovery impair clarity and make us fragile, so caution is required in all things for awhile.
• The role of a Recovery Supporter can be a life-changing and life-saving role for both parties. This cannot be overstated.
• Doing nothing is worse than doing something badly. Commit ALL the way or get outta the way!
• No addict has become an addict to punish you. They’re unstable, NOT evil!
• Addiction is not personal, but it will disguise and present itself that way again and again.
• Addiction is an alien living in the brain. The alien in the brain motivates the addict to be hurtful to convince partners to give up.
• No one truly knows what it’s like to be someone else. Addict’s aren’t stupid or weak just because they cannot do or understand what is so easy for you.
• Addiction is not a reasonable choice; it is a compulsory behavior. Judgment of an addict impedes progress and recovery.
• Recovery Supporters do not have to accept someone as an addict. Addicts should learn they will not have relationships with quality people if they continue to use.
• Addicts should never feel that they are inferior to non addicts.
• Recovery Supporters are victims of addiction.
• If you’re not an addict—or stupid, unstable, poor, ugly, or otherwise defective—be grateful, not arrogant.
• We all have defects. Within moments of listening to you expose someone else’s faults, I can expose yours too.
• An unstable person finds comfort and strength in recovery partners that are reliable and consistent.
• A Recovery Supporter needs to be firm—not passive, not aggressive, not passive-aggressive, but firm.
• Recovery cannot afford pauses or stops due to life’s changes and unpredictability. Sobriety requires absolute, unwavering focus.
• We do not need to believe in recovery. It’s not Santa Claus or a unicorn; it is real and available.
• Work plus sacrifice will always equal improvement. How much improvement, we cannot know, but some is better than none.
• Nothing is good nor bad till thinking makes it so. – Shakespeare
• Recovery Supporters need objectivity: the quality of experiencing something without being influenced by our own personal perspective of it.
• There are two qualities that come with being mature: dignity and grace.
• Maturity does not suppress our emotions and thoughts. It expresses and communicates them with respect and sensitivity.
• Be mature, be graceful, and be dignified, and if you aren’t, don’t be afraid to acknowledge and compensate for your own errors.
• STAY STRONG: An addict will resent you for not loving him or her enough to have gotten tough when the tough got going.
• Giving in to an addict is not compassionate; it’s reckless.
• No one goes down without a fight, and you shouldn’t either. An addiction will fight to protect itself like a rabid dog, so you better be willing to fight to protect the agreed-upon goals.
Have confidence. It’s infectious!